How Do I Tell Somebody I Only Like Them as a Friend?
This Kid in My Class Likes Me. How Do I Say I Only Like Them as a Friend?
It happens a lot — someone likes you, but you don't like the person back, at least not in that way. What's a kid to do? Ignoring your admirer would be rude. Saying "go away" or "no way!" would be unkind and hurt their feelings. But not telling the truth about it doesn't work either because then they might think you like them too.
So how do you not hurt someone's feelings when the answer is "no"?
Being honest about how you feel is always a good thing — as long as you say it kindly, without being mean on purpose. It shows the kind of person you are and it's part of being your best self. Don't forget that it's a compliment when someone likes you. Maybe they think you're cute, funny, kind, smart, cool — just irresistible in whatever way.
It feels good to know that someone likes you. But it doesn't feel so good when you like someone, then find out that the other person doesn't feel the same way. So expect your classmate to be disappointed. Still, maybe you can think of a friendly compliment to give when you say you just want to be friends. Here's an example: "You're nice [or cool, cute, smart], but I like you just as a friend. I hope you're OK with that."
Good luck and we hope that works!
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